The Happy Life – Deciding

Life is filled with decisions.  What should we have for dinner?  I don’t know, what do you want?  I’m flexible, what do you want?  Some choices….like dinner…are not as tough as we sometimes make them seem.

Other choices are harder, of course.  Where should we go on vacation?  We could go to… or maybe we should… oh but that would cost a lot of…. that would put me way behind at….

There are lots of rational reasons on both sides of a question like one involving a vacation.  If you spend $2,000 on a vacation you might rationalize that you could save that money and spend it on something important like future college tuition, paying down some debt, stocks and bonds, or setting it aside for a new set of tires in the fall.

All of those are very reasonable and responsible options. But a nice vacation is reasonable and responsible too.  You’ve got to recharge the soul every once in awhile to remain happy and productive, right?

And so we are left with a quandary.  What to do, what to do….

Here’s an idea.  I call it the Deathbed test.

Years from now (he said optimistically) as you lie in your deathbed taking inventory of your life and struggling through your final breaths…..can you envision saying to yourself…”Thank goodness I bought those tires back in 2017. That was the right call.”

Or could you more easily imagine yourself reminiscing about that vacation you took and the amazing things you experienced.  The sights, the sounds, the smells, the food, the music……the people you spent time with.

Would you say…”I’m glad I won that argument.”

Would you say…”Thank goodness I never took that risk.”

Would you say…”Man, those were some great tires!.”

Or, as you lie there in the twilight of your days, with all the assembled wisdom of an entire life at your disposal, might you view winning, risking, failing, and being prudent differently than you did in all the moments that preceded this one?

Maybe the real choice is between whether or not to live a life driven by all the pressures and constraints you feel today…..or one driven by the standard you will no doubt apply in your final moments.

That moment is likely years away…..right?

Go decide.


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6 Replies to “The Happy Life – Deciding”

  1. WOW, so true, but how do you make that decision without being so practical? Tires vs vacation, who knew it would be so hard.

    1. Hard to make that call today, for sure. I wonder if the “Deathbed” version of ourselves would struggle with this question. I have a sneaking suspicion the answer would be…..uh, no. 😉

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