You’re a fraud. You heard me right. I said you’re a fraud. I’m a fraud, too. We’re all frauds.
This is the conclusion I recently came to when I saw the viral video below. You’ve probably seen it in various forms. It’s several subjects with 4 photos each with ever increasing glasses of wine in their system.
At first glance it’s amusing to watch people get goofier and goofier as you work through the series. But you know what jumped out to me?
Picture #1, no wine in the system.
We all get that alcohol loosens you up and lowers your inhibitions, your defenses….but think about that for a second. That means that we are all walking around pretending, positioning, posing, perpetrating a fraud!
We are not who we say we are!!!
…and the pictures in this study support that. Take a close look at who those folks want you to believe they are in picture #1. Then juxtapose that with who they seem to be as wine pulls the curtain back.
I think this is why roommate situations between longtime friends so predictably go bad at such a high rate. I think it may have something to do with the high divorce rate as well. It’s really a question of authenticity, right? You don’t really know or get the authentic truth……until you do.
I remember when I first met my wife, Kat. We were both working for Whataburger. She was the boss. As we worked together we got more and more friendly, more and more flirty, etc.
Then one day, after many hours of burger flippin’, I pulled off my plastic apron and paper hat and turned around to a stunned Kat. As it turns out, she had never seen me without my hat and was fixated on my (at that time mostly) bald head.
There was an awkward pause….and then we both burst out in laughter that went on for awhile!
And THAT was probably the first truly authentic moment I had with my future wife. It can be the glue of human relations…..or the end of them.
Powerful stuff this authenticity…you fraud.
(If you care to defend or make a public confession regarding your fraudulent life….please use the comment section below!)