The Commitment Gap

I have been married to the same woman for 30 years.  I have worked for the same company for almost 25 years.  My wife and I have cared for a special needs family member for a few decades.  I haven’t changed my socks since I was 17.

Okay…that last one was just to see if you were paying attention.  The point is I don’t have a problem with commitment.  On the other hand, these things can be situationally specific….

Sound familiar?

When my wife and I were buying our first house I had to be pulled along as if kicking and screaming.  Seemed big to me at the time.  Not so much now.

When it was time to buy our first car….I was slow to pull the trigger.  Seemed like a big commitment of resources over a long period of time!  Don’t get me started on the conversation we had about the wisdom of an extended warranty.  I was opposed.  I lost.  A short time later we would have been in a financial crunch had I won that debate.

When it’s time to plan a vacation I struggle with commitment.  When do YOU become fully committed to taking a vacation?  When the plan is hatched?  When the tickets are bought?  When you board the plane or check into the hotel?  When exactly is it a done deal?

I really have to get better about vacations.  We have a special needs family member and two dogs so vacations require some planning and coordination…..

…but those are just obstacles to overcome.  They are not insurmountable barriers.  Tony, our special needs guy, likes to say to me….”Suck it up, buttercup!”  I’m not sure where he learned that expression (looking around and whistling)….

….but he may be on to something.


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6 Replies to “The Commitment Gap”

  1. I’m all in once I have the tickets. Remember last year for the Minnesota Viking game we bought the football tickets and everything else fell into place. I felt totally committed! Best weekend trip ever!!
    I do like planning everything out and looking for some sweet deals. We are adding a new family member in the next few months so I know it will cost more to board three fur babies. My oldest brother and family will take Tony. That all seems easy if we coordinate. You are right, we have a hard time committing.

  2. My friend and former bass player used to show up to the venue where the show had been booked months in advance, set up his amp, make sure it made the noise he wanted to hear and quietly announce, “I’m taking the gig.” Broke me up every time.

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