“Tell me your hopes and your fears” my Dad likes to say.
It’s a seemingly innocent conversation starter. But I have to say that this innocuous throw away line can lead to some rather heavy soul searching. Think about it. Hopes and fears. That cuts right to the heart of what it is we’re doing with our lives in the limited time we have.
When this question is asked of me I usually dodge the meat of the question with some sort of quip like “I hope to land safely but I fear my chute might not open!”
But, nevertheless, a seed is planted and that seed grows in my subconscious.
What AM I hoping for? Do I have some vision for the future? Well sure I do (sort of) but what exactly is it.
The word “Hope” sounds good. In a lot of ways I believe it is good. We should all have hope. I encourage it and I have it.
But, in another sense, hope might also suggest a lack of planning. Not that a plan isn’t forthcoming …but for today maybe it’s just a positive hopeful thought that I’m packing.
That same seed makes me think about my fears, too.
I fear posting content on this blog, for example. What if the readers are bored? (Both of them, lol!) What if I embarrass myself or my family? What if I offend? Lions and Tigers and Bears, oh no!
If fears like these win the day……we have to battle back and go after them again tomorrow! The key is the struggle! There is no shame in failing to overcome fears like these today.
The shame is in the surrender.
So, I think this is what Dad is seeking when he poses the “hopes and fears” question…..what is your VISION of YOUR future. If you answer the question seriously you will reveal how far along you are on the trail of hopes and fears toward your final destination of a VISION.
John F Kennedy did not say that he “hoped” we would go to the moon. He announced that we CHOOSE to go to the moon. And we did. Had he announced his hope of it…..well this might be a different world than the one we are living in today.
What are YOUR hopes and fears? Figure them out, formulate YOUR vision, and then take your moonshot.