Essentially No

Can you?  Will you?  Would you?  Could you?  I cannot, will not, would not, could not.  But thank you for asking.

For some reason I am suddenly craving Green Eggs and Ham.

It sounds simple.  Just say no.  You only have so much time in the day.  You can’t be everything to everybody.  You can try….but you will fail.  You will not only fail those you are trying to help.  You will fail at those things you are trying to accomplish for yourself.

Choices must be made.  Hard choices.

The Essential Sleep

The rewards for saying “no” are plenty.  I won’t detail them here but just imagine how much time you will have to focus on the things that really matter to you….the top 10% of things you want to do and accomplish!

But for now I’m more focused on the “saying no” part.  You can talk all day long about how you will benefit from saying “no” more often….but if you don’t or can’t execute the “no” then you are just spinning your wheels.

Why is it so hard to say no?  I suppose the answer to that question could vary by person….but I think what it basically comes down to is that we are rewarded either internally or externally by doing things for others.

Perhaps others sing your praises.  Perhaps you enjoy serving others.  Maybe you are a nurturer by nature.  Do you feel a sense of obligation?  Do you believe that your value to your family or organization is measured based on how many things you get done or boxes you can check in a day?  Or maybe you just….

….don’t want to let anybody down.

I get it.  I’m the same way.  But I’m working on it.  I’m working on it because while checking boxes feels good….it pales in comparison to actually accomplishing something or creating something.

So you know that old expression about how a journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step?  There’s likely some truth in there somewhere.

So, if we really want to get to the top 10% of things in our lives we are going to have to say “no” to the other 90%…..

….starting today.

Actually starting right now.  I want you to stop what you are doing.  Find something small that you can say “no” to and say no.  Make that phone call.  Send that text.  Shoot them an email.  Whatever works and then report back in the comment section below.

What’s that you say?  Did you just tell me…No?

Why you I oughtta…..#!?$&#?!!!!




2 Replies to “Essentially No”

  1. Saying “No” does not come naturally to many of us, but in our personal and professional lives, it may be the essence of our success. Saying “No” may in fact help you focus on what is essential to you and those that you love and care about the most.
    LESS time spent on the non-essential and MORE time focused on the essential may be secret to a successful, happy and rewarding life.

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